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  • Writer's pictureMarie Robinson

What is Self-confidence?

Whilst self-confidence can be subjective, it is about being sure of ourselves and having faith in our abilities. It helps us to feel ready for life’s experiences; giving us the upper hand to make things happen, grasp opportunities or take the next step. However, low confidence can affect many areas of our lives such as our appearances, relationships, careers and social situations. I have met so many clients that have let their lack of confidence affect their ability to reach their true potential due to negative self-talk.

So how can you overcome low confidence?

Luckily, your limiting beliefs can be overcome by changing old thinking patterns with new ones. It is your thoughts that determine emotions. Replace any negative thoughts with something positive that you like about yourself. How about looking in the mirror and saying ‘I’m good enough’ and ‘I’m smart enough’.

Ditch the negative self-talk

Your inner critic and self-doubt may be limiting your ability to achieve your true potential and live the life you want. If you believe that you can achieve something then you are likely to work hard to make it happen. Remember, failure and rejection is part of life for which we can learn from and gain new insights. So take those small steps to face your fears, taking action will boost your confidence. Believe that you are strong and capable enough when faced with those situations that take you out of your comfort zone.

Review past accomplishments

I have worked with many clients who have lacked confidence in their abilities. They have failed to look in their past where their success and achievements often outweigh their perceived or anticipated failures. When self-doubt creeps in it is important to remember your accomplishments. Don’t dwell on disappointments, but focus on the positives. Confronting your fears can be the chance to develop and grow into a more confident you allowing access new opportunities this provides.

Build confidence habits

Cultivate exercise and healthy eating habits to boost self-esteem, and confidence. This not only improves our body image but also makes us feel more physically and mentally prepared for life challenges. Studies have also shown the importance of a good night’s sleep to improve performance in all aspects of our lives, it is also is linked with increased optimism confidence.

Surround yourself with positive people

Are you constantly being judged by friends and family, or do they accept you for who you truly are? Surround yourself with positive people that give you confidence and reinforce your self-belief. Whilst listening to advice from others is important, avoid those with opinions that that trigger your negative thinking. Be mindful when around those people that weigh you down emotionally; don’t buy into negative cynicism. It is positive people that will give you energy and confidence and help you achieve the life you want.

Act confident

Imagine how you would feel if you were confident. How would you act? Fortunately, we can project better confidence by adjusting our body language. One strategy is to adopt an assertive body posture that projects self-confidence. Hold your head high, consider your tone of voice and don’t forget to smile. Of course, when you look good, you’ll feel good, so wear those clothes that make you more confident.

Relax be yourself

Whilst comparisons with others can sometimes be motivating or inspirational, it can also deprive us of our confidence and self-worth, including happiness. Compare yourself with you and reflect on your own journey and the obstacles you have overcome. Remember no one is perfect; so embrace your quirks and imperfections.


Believing in yourself is the first step towards the new confident you so work on that procrastination. Visualise a mental picture of the new confident you and what you want to achieve. Remember every step forward is progress for ditching those limiting beliefs and seeing what you are truly capable off. You can do it!!

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